Thankfully one pretty easy technique has come to the fore, recommend by experts.
The other plus? It’s not something that has to take place in the bedroom.
This secret to being a better lover? Pick up a book.
Being an avid reader can make you better in bed than the average person, according to eHarmony.
Men who list reading as an interest on their profiles received 19 per cent more messages.
Men, perhaps unsurprisingly to some, care much less about whether their partner reads.
Women get only three per cent more interest in their profiles if they list reading as a hobby.
What you read is also important to prospective dates online according to the site.
Men who mention Richard Branson’s “Screw It, Let’s Do It” and “Like a Virgin,” get 74 per cent more attention to their profiles.
Next up are Dragon Tattoo with 36 per cent, 1984 with 21 per cent and The Da Vinci Code, five per cent.
Unfortunately listing Harry Potter means men will lose 55 per cent of potential dates.
Studies show that reading is tied to empathy, the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
This is bound to make you more attuned to your partners needs and better at sex a a result.
Even more surprising is the fact that what you read is important to.
Lovers of non-fiction take note – those who get stuck into novels are more likely to ignite the spark of passion between the sheets.
Those who read are capable of more empathy, according to two studies carried out in 2006 and 2009 by Raymond Mar, a psychologist at York University in Canada, and Keith Oatley, a professor of cognitive psychology at the University of Toronto.
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